Who would want to do that? But strangely enough we often do things that actually sabotage our confidence in our own abilities. we would like to be confident but are you also secretly wishing to kill your own confidence?
Do you try to portray confidence when you actually feel weak and nimble on the inside?
You are not the only one with this problem. There are a lot of people struggling with this problem everyday. Know what happens when you resist something? even a thought, It persists. Now tell me when you want to be confident? What is your primary reason? Do you hate being Confident? Do you hate the idea of low confidence?do you have trouble due to your low self esteem?
You may have some unconscious blocks that stops you from becoming a confident person. So, what could these blocks be? You might believe you will never be a confident person, but this belief is not based on fact – it is simply based on your way of looking at things.
What are the common blocks that stop you from being confident.
Don’t Deserve to be confident
Hard to believe but many people have this problem. on the outside you may wish to become confident but on the inside you may do not feel like you deserve to be confident. It’s similar to believing you don’t deserve happiness or success. Until you resolve this block, it will be difficult to reach your goals.
You are afraid to be confident
Sometimes, people fear success as much as failure because of the changes it brings to their lives. It is the same story with self confidence. if you choose to become confident, things are going to change in your life. Many find change to be a scary prospect.
You secretly think confidence is equal to arrogance
Perhaps you have met people who seemed overly confident – so confident in fact that they came across as arrogant and rather obnoxious. You may worry that you will become so confident that you will forget who you really are.
You think certain people are born with a confidence gene and are ‘lucky’
You fear what others will think of the new, confident you.
Most of us care deeply what others think of us. We are often surrounded by other people who low confidence in themselves and they become our mirrors. This creates a sense of bonding, a feeling of belonging. The ones close to us always reinforce that. Becoming more confident means changing and sometimes this isn’t favored by those around us – they might be hostile to or jealous of our pursuit of confidence and fulfillment. Sometimes they may feel threatened and you may worry that you will lose some friends.
You may belive that you are very shy and you cannot be confident
Surprisingly people thing being shy means you should not be confident. In fact if you are shy overcoming your shyness should be a good reason why you want to become confident
